The Essence of Worth and Values in Life and Leadership
Rich Baron • May 2, 2024
Self-worth is a journey, not a destination
In a world where materialism and superficiality seem to reign supreme, it can be easy to lose sight of what truly matters – our worth and values. Our worth is not determined by the size of our bank accounts, the title on the door of our office, or the number of possessions we own. It is about the intrinsic value we hold as human beings, the qualities that make us unique and special.
Values, on the other hand, are the principles and beliefs that guide our actions and decisions. They are the moral compass that directs us toward what is important and meaningful in our lives. Our values reflect what we hold dear, what we stand for, and what we are willing to fight for.
In a society that often measures success in terms of external achievements, it is important to remember that these outward markers of success do not define our worth and values. True worth comes from within – from our character, integrity, and ability to empathize with others. It is about being kind, compassionate, and respectful towards us and others. These values and attributes are a critical component of leadership and the ability to effectively lead others.
Titles and Worth
How often do we find ourselves thinking that if we just had that title, or the big office, or the accouterments that come with a big paycheck? People may see that we’ve arrived in the world and with that recognition our self-worth would increase. Sounds a bit hollow, doesn’t it?
In the competitive world of the workplace, many individuals find themselves constantly chasing after titles and promotions to advance their careers. While this drive and ambition can be a positive motivator, it is important to consider the potential drawbacks of this mindset. While this drive and ambition can be a positive motivator, it is important to consider the potential drawbacks of this mindset.
Chasing after titles can often lead to a never-ending cycle of dissatisfaction and unfulfillment. No matter how many promotions or accolades one may receive, there will always be another title to chase after. This can create a sense of constant striving and discontent, as individuals may never feel truly satisfied with their accomplishments. This can truly be damaging to our feelings of worth. In addition, we may start to chip away at our values as the chase for how others see us becomes more important than the values that truly make us who we are, our inner core.
Additionally, placing too much emphasis on titles and promotions can detract from the actual work being done. When individuals are solely focused on advancing their careers, they may lose sight of the bigger picture and forget about the importance of not only teamwork and collaboration but also personal well-being. It is crucial to remember that success in the workplace is not solely defined by one's title or position but by the impact one makes and the relationships we build with not only their colleagues but everyone in our circle of influence including our family and friends. How can you truly achieve this when our opinion of our self-worth is tied directly to who we are at work?
Ultimately, while it is important to be ambitious and strive for success in the workplace, it is equally important to maintain a healthy perspective and remember that titles are not the sole measure of one's worth or success. By focusing on personal growth, maintaining a healthy work-life balance, and valuing collaboration and teamwork, individuals can build a fulfilling and successful career that goes beyond just chasing after titles.
Developing Core Purpose Statements and Self-Worth
Ultimately, your actions, behaviors, and successes are tied to your inner core and what you value. Take the time to identify your values and worth and consider how you can bring value to the world. Determine who you want to positively impact. The exercise of reflecting, writing, and, most importantly, believing in and living your CPS can greatly contribute to your self-worth, values, and success in both business and life. It is one of the most powerful exercises we can undertake to facilitate our personal growth and achievements.
A CPS is the essence of living a life that is unique to you, highly personal, and Integral to your existence. It serves as a lens through which you:
• View the world around you.
• Set goals and take action.
• Make choices based on your values, beliefs, and perceptions.
• Make decisions through a process of analysis and elimination.
• Measure satisfaction, which holds greater importance than mere "success."
A CPS is an empowering, living document that helps us to live a meaningful life and is a reflection of our innermost being, born out of a profound connection with our inner core. It is a manifestation of our talents and strengths, showcasing our distinct ability to make a valuable contribution to the world. This purposeful existence caters to our fundamental human needs and embraces the physical, social/emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects of our being. It acknowledges and integrates all the important roles we play in life, be it personal, familial, professional, or societal. Most importantly, living a meaningful life is not about impressing others but about inspiring ourselves on a deeper level, reminding us of our true essence and worth.
Why Is Worth Important
In a world that is constantly changing and evolving, it is important to hold on to our worth and values as anchors that keep us grounded. They provide us with a sense of stability and direction in a rapidly shifting world.
It is essential to take the time to reflect on our worth and values, to understand what truly matters to us and what we stand for. By clarifying our values and aligning our actions with them, we can live a more purposeful and authentic life. This may involve making difficult choices or standing up for what we believe in, even in the face of adversity.
Our values serve as a roadmap for living a fulfilling and meaningful life. They help us prioritize what is truly important and make decisions that align with our core beliefs. When we live in alignment with our values, we experience a sense of authenticity and fulfillment that cannot be achieved through external validation alone.
Wrapping Up
Ultimately, our worth and values are what shape our character and define who we are as individuals. They are the foundation upon which we build our lives and make our mark on the world. By honoring our worth and staying true to our values, we can lead lives that are rich in meaning, purpose, and fulfillment.
So, take the time to reflect on your worth and values. What matters most to you? What do you stand for? By living in alignment with your worth and values, you can create a life that is truly worth living.
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About the Author
Rich Baron serves as the Chief Operating Officer and Director of the Global Coaching Project at John Mattone Global, where he also holds the title of Master Certified Intelligent Leadership Executive Coach. With over 30 years of rich experience in cultural transformation, operational leadership, executive roles, and coaching leaders at every level—from emerging talents to seasoned CEOs—Rich has a demonstrated track record of success.
Rich co-hosts "Mainline Executive Coaching ACT," a podcast that is recognized by Feedspot as the leading Executive Coaching Podcast worldwide. The podcast's acclaim is based on an evaluation of numerous factors, including web traffic, social media followers, and timeliness. It boasts an impressive following in more than 85 countries and over 850 cities globally.

The First World War, occurring from 1914 to 1918, brought unprecedented destruction and violence. The impact of the First World War, in particular, forever transformed the nature of war. This conflict witnessed the deliberate targeting of civilians, the widespread use of chemical weapons, and the introduction of mechanized warfare on a large scale. The death toll reached a staggering 22 million people, with some accounts putting the toll closer to 37 million. However, amidst the chaos and brutality of the First World War, a brief and remarkable moment of peace unfolded on Christmas Day in 1914. It Will Be Over by Christmas Many of the 60 million soldiers sent to fight in the First World War were told that the war would be over by Christmas—a promise that turned out to be yet another falsehood in a conflict plagued with deception and misinformation. After war was declared in July 1914, it became clear by Christmas of that year that there was no end in sight. The Western Front was dotted with trenches, where millions of soldiers were packed together, enduring freezing conditions. Many of these soldiers were astonishingly close to their enemies, with the British and German trenches sometimes separated by a mere 30 meters. According to Daniel Coyle in his best-selling book “The Culture Code”, soldiers on both sides, because of proximity to each other, started noticing shared patterns of behavior and routines of cooking, re-supply, and troop rotations. Deepening the connection was the realization that both sides were enduring the same terror and stress of harsh conditions. On the late hours of Christmas Eve, German troops started opening gifts that they had received from home, including Christmas trees adorned with candles. The soldiers lit their lanterns and placed them along the edges of their trenches, creating a warm and festive atmosphere. As the candles flickered, the sound of carol singing resonated through the air. A Personal Account Bruce Bairnsfather, a British machine gunner who would later become a well-known cartoonist, vividly described the scene in his memoirs. Like his fellow infantrymen from the 1st Battalion of the Royal Warwickshire Regiment, Bairnsfather spent Christmas Eve shivering in the muddy trenches, desperately trying to keep warm. Having fought against the Germans for the past few months, he found himself in the Bois de Ploegsteert region of Belgium. In this unforgiving environment, Bairnsfather, cramped in a trench only three feet deep and three feet wide, faced constant sleeplessness and fear. His days and nights were filled with the repetitive cycle of anxiety, surviving on stale biscuits and cigarettes too damp to light. At about 10 p.m., Bairnsfather noticed a noise. “I listened,” he recalled. The Germans were singing carols, as it was Christmas Eve. The British soldiers in the trenches joined in by singing back. Amid this peaceful moment, a surprising occurrence unfolded. Bairnsfather and his comrades heard a bewildered shouting from the German side, causing them to pause and listen intently. The voice belonged to an enemy soldier who spoke English with a distinct German accent, calling out, "Come over here." In a remarkable turn of events, the British and French troops, inspired by the Germans, also participated in the Christmas truce. Fear and suspicion were set aside as soldiers began to exchange greetings and well-wishes between the trenches. Offers for a temporary ceasefire were communicated and accepted. With the dawn of Christmas morning, soldiers cautiously stepped out into no man's land. They greeted one another and engaged in an awe-inspiring display of humanity. Messages and gifts were shared as soldiers from opposing sides momentarily set aside their enmity. In some areas, caps and jackets were repurposed as goalposts, leading to impromptu and joyful football matches. It is even said that the Germans emerged victorious in one of these games with a final score of 3-2. Another British soldier, named John Ferguson, recalled it this way: “Here we were laughing and chatting to men whom only a few hours before we were trying to kill!” The temporary cessation of fighting continued in certain areas until the arrival of the New Year, but ultimately, the pause proved to be brief and the peace was short-lived. Although there were several other instances of similar truces during the war, none were as widespread or significant as the Christmas truce of 1914. Disapproval from Senior Leaders As expected, certain high-ranking officers on both sides viewed the Christmas Truce with disapproval. They issued orders explicitly forbidding any association with the enemy and warned of potential punishments for those who disobeyed, even execution for cowardice by firing squad for those who attempted to start another truce. However, the soldiers, who were already weary from the war (unaware of the years of continued fighting ahead), chose to take matters into their own hands. They defied the orders and acted independently to establish moments of peace, albeit temporary, amidst the turmoil of war. In an alternate account, it is reported that a German soldier named Adolf Hitler reprimanded his comrades during the Christmas Truce, expressing his disapproval by stating, "Such a thing should not happen in wartime. Have you no German sense of honor left?" Hitler, who was 25 years old at the time, conveyed his disdain for the temporary ceasefire. What Can We Learn as Leaders If enemies on the battle lines can create a culture of safety, respect, and belonging even during war, it suggests that similar conditions can be replicated within organizations. And indeed, there are ways to achieve this. According to Coyle, organizations that foster a strong sense of belonging can address the following questions to ensure a positive response from employees: 1. Are we connected? - Encourage open communication and collaboration among team members. - Foster a sense of unity and shared purpose. 2. Do we share a future? - Clearly, and often, communicate the organization's vision, mission, and goals. - Involve employees in decision-making processes to create a sense of ownership and shared commitment. 3. Are we safe? - Promote a culture of psychological safety where employees completely trust that the organization is a safe place to give 100% while expressing their opinions and taking risks. - Establish policies and practices that prioritize employee well-being and physical safety. To ensure a resounding "YES" to these questions, it is crucial to clearly and consistently communicate the organization's vision, mission, and goals. This can be achieved by: Communicate the purpose: An effective approach to communicate your organization's purpose is by using concise messaging throughout. Avoid using overly complex statements that potential employees may struggle to understand or feel apprehensive about living up to. Articulating the vision: Communicate the long-term aspirations and purpose of the organization. This overarching vision should inspire and provide a sense of direction for all employees. And that they are a crucial part of achieving the vision. Define the mission: Clearly define the organization's mission statement, which outlines its core purpose, main activities, and the value it delivers to its stakeholders. Regularly reinforce this mission to remind employees of the organization's primary focus. My Key Takeaways The Christmas Truce offers valuable lessons about leadership and culture that can be applied in various contexts. Although this event took place over 100 years ago, the lessons we must learn from those brave soldiers are still relevant today. So here are a few of my thoughts and key takeaways: 1. Leaders Set the Tone: The temporary ceasefire during the Christmas Truce was driven by individual soldiers who took the initiative to establish peace. This highlights the importance of leaders setting the right tone and creating an environment that encourages positive actions and behaviors. 2. Humanize the "Enemy": The soldiers involved in the truce showed empathy and compassion towards their supposed enemies. This serves as a powerful reminder that seeing the humanity in others, even in challenging circumstances, can foster understanding and connection. 3. Facilitate Connection and Communication: The Christmas Truce exemplified the power of connection and communication across divides. Leaders should create opportunities for open dialogue, collaboration, and relationship building, fostering a sense of community and common purpose. 4. Encourage Empathy and Respect: The truce demonstrated the significance of empathy and respect in promoting peaceful interactions. Leaders can cultivate these qualities by emphasizing the importance of understanding different perspectives and treating others with dignity and respect. 5. Boldly Challenge Norms: The soldiers who participated in the truce defied the established orders and norms, highlighting the potential for positive change when individuals challenge the status quo. Leaders should encourage everyone in their organizations to think differently and think big. Wrapping Up Even in today's world, the lessons from the Christmas Truce of 1914 remain pertinent. Individuals, regardless of their political beliefs and ideologies, will unite with their families to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, who symbolizes peace and salvation. It is a day when we commit ourselves to acts of generosity and spreading kindness to those around us. Afterward, instead of going back to our organizational trenches and shooting at each other verbally from within our siloed walls, we should stay in the “no man’s land” of compromise and conciliation and continue to find solutions to common problems. Like the soldiers in the Christmas Truce, we should make the spirit of goodwill at Christmas last more than one day. By consistently prioritizing and nurturing these elements year-round, organizations can create a culture that fosters a strong sense of belonging, ultimately leading to increased engagement, productivity, and overall organizational success. I wish you all a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays. Thank you for your continued support and I wish you all the best for the coming new year. About the Author Rich Baron is the Chief Operating Officer and Director of Global Coaching Projects at John Mattone Global (JMG) and a Master Certified Intelligent Leadership® Executive Coach. He partners with C-level leaders and high-potential executives around the world to strengthen trust, elevate culture, and drive sustainable transformation. Rich leads large-scale coaching and cultural initiatives across multiple regions and industries, and serves as a strategic bridge between executive teams, HR, and global coaching networks. He is also the co-host of the Mainline Executive Coaching ACT podcast, recognized as one of the top executive coaching podcasts globally, where he explores the real-world challenges and opportunities facing today’s leaders. Through his work, Rich is dedicated to CHANGING THE WORLD One Leader, One Organization at a Time® by helping leaders move beyond performance and build the inner architecture required to become world-class executives.



